Support for the Rubios
$50,000 Goal - Can you Help?
$ 14,210 - Raised so far
All funds raised will help support the family to cover end-of life care, one last family vacation, funeral expenses, and the immense financial burdens of Carlos not being able to work during his illness, and after he passes away.
Unfortunately, there is no life insurance.
Anything, no matter how small, will help tremendously. Thank you.
Our Rock
Our hearts are broken, and our family is devastated.
Carlos,
my dear husband of 29 years, has been diagnosed with stage 5 chronic
kidney disease. It's
our understanding that he has only precious months to live.
After careful consideration, he has chosen conservative management for his condition. As his
family, we are supporting him in this difficult and courageous decision.
Carlos is our rock and protector. We can't even comprehend what our lives will look without him.
We
want to make the most of the time we have left together and fulfill any last
wishes he may have. Unfortunately, we do not have the financial means
to cover the expenses associated with this end-of-life journey, and
Carlos doesn't have life insurance.
Carlos
and I are very hard workers and have worked full-time most of our
lives. It is so important to both of us that we don't rely on anyone
else. Carlos is a proud man who has worked tirelessly throughout his life,
always prioritizing the well-being of others over his own. He seriously hates having to ask for this help as well.
Unfortunately, things have just snowballed out of control with him not working for quite a long time due to his
illness, and supporting several of my kids as they have struggled with
mental health. The financial burden on me and my family has been immense.
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I feel
very vulnerable and incredibly uncomfortable asking for help, and I
would not do so unless it was absolutely necessary.
It is necessary, and we need your help.
We
are humbly asking for your support in the form of donations to help us
create meaningful experiences during this precious time we have left.
Any contribution, no matter how small, would be greatly appreciated and
would go directly towards fulfilling his last wishes, ensuring he is
comfortable, and pay for the costs of his funeral and burial.
Thank you for considering our request. Your kindness and generosity mean the world to us during this challenging time.
With heartfelt gratitude,
Bethany & Family
How Can You Donate?
Chase Bank: (Information coming)
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| Grandpa Carlos and Elena |
Meet Carlos
As we navigate one of the most challenging times in our lives, I want to
take a moment to celebrate my husband, Carlos. He is a man of immense
strength, kindness, and humor who has touched the lives of everyone
around him. Today, I share his story not only
to honor his legacy but also to seek your support as we face the
upcoming challenges together.
Carlos grew up in Querétaro, Mexico, until the age of 15, when he moved
to the United States. Sadly, there are no pictures of Carlos when he was younger.
I met Carlos when we were both just 17 years old,
and our relationship blossomed into a whirlwind romance. The moment he
turned 18, we decided to get married—I was
six months older and already of age. We were eager to start our lives
together and quickly found ourselves expecting our first daughter,
Pamala, just a month later.
Being so young and unprepared for parenthood forced us to grow up
quickly. The responsibility of having a baby was monumental, and we
learned its true weight only after her arrival. With no help from our
parents, we forged our own path, which instilled in us
the values of strength, responsibility, and hard work—qualities I
admire most about Carlos. Just over a year later, we were blessed with
our second child, Michael. This news brought joy, but also anxiety about
how we would manage.
Carlos carried a deep pride rooted in his Mexican heritage, where
traditionally, child-rearing falls to the wife. Coming from such
different cultural backgrounds, we had to navigate these differences
together. Through hard work and commitment, by the time Michael
was born,
Carlos was actively involved in caring for our children. He
faced jokes from his family for this, but I will always be grateful for
his willingness to embrace change and meet me halfway.
Our little family continued to grow, and Carlos reveled in being a dad. He has always taken great pride in our children. In 2006, ten years after Pamala's birth, we were surprised by the arrival of our third daughter, Gaby. This new chapter brought its own set of challenges, as our two oldest were now 8 and 10. Yet, we embraced the age difference, knowing we wanted Gaby to have a sibling close in age.
In 2008, we welcomed our last baby girl, Carla, completing
our family.
Throughout our journey, we have experienced ups and downs, but our love
for each other has remained steadfast. Carlos is my opposite; he grounds
me when I am upset and always does his best to help during difficult
times.
I am incredibly proud of how much he
has grown as a person and as a spouse. He accepts our children for who
they are and has always embraced me, regardless of my struggles with
trauma, depression, and self-esteem. For 29 years, he has stood by my
side.
Some of my favorite memories with Carlos are the celebrations we’ve
shared as a family. We love a good party!
We all cherish the moments we
celebrated Pamala’s Quinceañera in 2011
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Michael’s wedding in 2017,
adding another daughter to our family - Angie
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The birth of Elena in 2020, adding to our family our precious granddaughter.
Gaby’s Quinceañera in 2021
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Carla’s Quinceañera in
2023
These precious memories and events will forever hold a special place in our
hearts. I am so grateful to have had Carlos as my partner in life for 29
years. We grew up together, learning the intricacies of life hand in
hand. It’s astonishing how quickly time has passed.
Carlos' Decline
In May 2024, Carlos fell seriously ill, experiencing severe nausea and
an inability to eat. We rushed him to the ER, where doctors determined
that he needed to have his gallbladder removed. However, this diagnosis
uncovered a host of other issues we were unaware
of. Due to his uncontrolled diabetes and various health complications,
we learned that he was already at stage 3 of chronic kidney disease
(CKD). We made every effort to manage Carlos's diet and diabetes, but
unfortunately, it was too late.
By July, his kidney function had declined to the end of stage 4, with a
GFR of 18. Despite his relentless determination to control his diabetes,
the struggle has been overwhelming. Many of the medications that were
helping him also contributed to the deterioration
of his kidneys. Carlos has been feeling weak and unable to do much,
yet he has shown remarkable resilience.
By August, his kidney function dropped to 14%, and he recognized that
his health was declining rapidly. Having witnessed similar health
struggles in family members, he understood that no matter what path he
chose, the outcome would not be favorable. Ultimately,
he made the deeply personal decision to pursue conservative management,
a choice we all support.
Thank You
Thank you for taking the time and effort to read this and to care about our family. For those that are able to give (and those that would give if they could), thank you from the bottom of our hearts.
Love,
Bethany & Family
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